Congratulations! May God bless you as you plan this sacred event!! We at Lutheran Church of the Resurrection are happy for you and extend our best wishes as you prepare for your wedding day. We will do all we can to make sure that your wedding service is meaningful, worshipful, and filled with God’s glory and blessing.
Weddings can be held in any setting, but your choice of this church as the site of your wedding has some beautifully distinct implications. A church wedding is an act of worship and a sacred event where two people pledge themselves to one another in the presence of God and a worshiping community.
(Same gender couples are also welcome to be married at LCR.)
Scheduling Your Wedding Date and Time
You will want to plan as early as possible the date for the celebration of your marriage. Couples should approach the clearing of a date with the church as significantly as any of the other wedding arrangements that are made. After you have ascertained a mutually agreed upon date and time through consultation with the Pastor, it will be placed on the official parish calendar. (The date will be placed on the church calendar as soon as your non-refundable deposit is received.)
We CANNOT schedule two weddings on the same day and congregational members receive first priority. We are also unable to schedule weddings during Holy Week (from Palm Sunday through Easter), or December 20th through the Jan 1st.
The Pastor's Role
The Pastor of Lutheran Church of the Resurrection conducts the wedding ceremony and the rehearsal. Ministers of other congregations may participate and assist and are welcome to do so if a couple so requests, but the invitation to participate needs to be extended by the pastor of LCR. The church is not available for rent for outside weddings with other clergy or civil authorities presiding. Be sure to schedule an initial meeting the pastor ASAP so that your questions can be answered and arrangements made for your premarital conversation sessions. The meetings are scheduled at times mutually convenient to you and the pastor. Both bride and groom are to be present. (Generally, you would meet for four to six 1-hour sessions spaced 1 to 2 weeks apart. (For out of town couples who cannot travel the sessions can be held via video conference.)
Premarital conversation is designed to help you focus on the issues common to every marriage. For this purpose the pastor uses a tool called “Prepare/Enrich” inventory which helps to uncover the unique strengths and challenges of your relationship, and helps us to discover areas or issues that might need more discussion or clarification, such as communication, conflict management, role expectations, religion, parenting, finances and future goals in addition to planning the service and wedding rehearsal. The cost of the scoring and related materials is the responsibility of the couple. (See separate list of fees.)
Worship and Community Life
In addition to the exchange of vows, you will be asking God to bless your home and be a part of your life together--thus spiritual preparation is also important. If you are not already active in a congregation, we encourage your to attend worship at LCR where you will find joy and support in company with other Christian people who seek to organize their lives around the grace of God.
Linda Lundsten, our Wedding Coordinator, is familiar with the church, the pastor, and our guidelines. She can provide answers to all your questions and provide invaluable assistance in making your wedding all you are hoping for. We request that no outside consultants be used. The Wedding Coordinator will be present at your rehearsal and wedding, will attend to any specific instructions, and provide guidance at the time of the service. She will set up your dressing rooms and any special tables or chairs you need, prepare for and clean up after the Eucharist (if it is included), and work with your florist to ensure that everything is arranged as you requested.
The Wedding Rehearsal
Your wedding rehearsal is normally scheduled for the evening preceding the wedding date and will take one hour. Out of respect for all participants and leaders involved, it is important that the time chosen for rehearsal be strictly observed. Please inform your wedding party of the importance of being on time for the rehearsal. Sometimes couples provide a map to the church for their friends. All members of the bridal party, the parents, and close relatives or friends of both the bride and groom normally attend the rehearsal.
(It is important that you bring your marriage license to the rehearsal as the Pastor is unable to perform any wedding ceremony without first having the license in hand. By bringing it the day before the wedding you can rest assured for the big day.
The Order of the Service, Vows, etc.
Planning for the Marriage Service itself takes place primarily during the first meeting you have with the Pastor. You will be invited to choose the selections from the Scriptures that speak meaningfully to your love and commitment, as well as planning other details of the service. Couples for whom Holy Communion has special significance to their faith are encouraged to include the celebration of this Sacrament as part of their wedding ceremony. In such instances, the Eucharist would be made available to the entire worshiping community, underscoring the love, grace and unity of fellowship available in Christ.
Music at Your Wedding
Because we consider weddings to be sacred events, specific guidelines exist for selecting appropriate music. Music for your wedding should follow the standards for music in public worship. We ask that you consult with the Music Director and Pastor on your music selections prior to your wedding day.
When planning your music you might want to consider including one or more congregational hymns. Involving your friends and family in the singing of a hymn can be a very special witness to the spiritual nature of your wedding.
It is the responsibility of the bride and groom to contact the church Music Director well in advance to discuss the music for the wedding. The Music Director will answer specific questions you might have about the music to be used and can be helpful in arranging for soloists and instrumentalists.
When a vocalist is used for the wedding, it is the couple’s responsibility to see that the soloist contacts the church Music Director in sufficient time to select the music and to set up rehearsal time(s). The use of outside instrumentalists (brass, guitar, woodwinds, harp, etc.) is permissible in the wedding service.
Prerecorded music is discouraged.
Decorations, Furnishings, Candles and Flowers
The paraments (altar hangings) are to remain in place and will reflect the color of the church season. Please consult with the Wedding Coordinator if you wish to know the colors that will be displayed in the altar area.
Kneeling Pad: A kneeling pad is furnished.
Candles: Two altar candles are provided by the Altar Service. In addition, there are two 7-inch brass “festival light” candelabras available for use on the two wall pedestals on either side of the altar. Please let the Wedding Coordinator know in advance if you plan to use these as the appropriate candles will need to be purchased.
The use of a “unity candle” is permitted and the bridal couple will be responsible for providing the candles. Our Altar Service can provide the stand. Some couples choose to use a "unity cross sculpture" or "unity sand ceremony" rather than a candle.
Flowers: Flowers may be arranged to your own tastes. Consult your florist for suggestions. Any flowers that are to be placed in the area of the altar are to be natural (real) flowers, not silk or plastic.
No flowers are placed directly on the altar, but there is a table behind the altar which can accommodate one large or two small arrangements. (The side wall pedestals may also be used for flower arrangements if you are not using the Candelabra.) The church has brass vases for use here.
If you plan to drop flower petals, they must be silk only.
Aisle Cloth: The aisle length from back to base is 60’9”.
Please do not move any of the items on or surrounding the chancel (altar) area. This includes the altar candles, pulpit or lectern, banners, and chancel chairs.
Seating Capacity & Handicap Access: The sanctuary seats roughly 250-300 people. Our north entrance has full handicap access and the Fellowship Hall and lower-level classrooms are accessible by elevator. The shortened pews in the front of the sanctuary allow for comfortable positioning of a wheelchair or scooter.
Photography and Video Services
Photographs of your wedding are important to you because they preserve the memory of this beautiful and holy event for years to come. Most professional photographers are trained and experienced in recording the Christian Wedding ceremony. As a professional, your photographer will want to be acquainted with the policies of our congregation. Please ask your photographer to meet and talk with the Pastor before the service.
No flash pictures may be taken during the service other than during the processional and recessional.
It is the responsibility of the bride and groom to instruct the photographer that no flash pictures are permissible during the service of worship and every effort must be made not to create a distraction. Time-exposure settings of the ceremony may be taken from the balcony, the sacristy or from the side aisles provided this is done unobtrusively.
Before or following the service, posed pictures may be taken in the nave/chancel area. Remember that time is somewhat limited after the service. Your guests will be waiting for you, and you should have a clear understanding with the photographer about the precise pictures he/she will want to take. Many couples prepare their photographer with a checklist of desired photos.
In keeping with the dignity of the wedding ceremony, it is inappropriate for family member and attending guests to use cameras during the service. You are welcome to take pictures before or after the ceremony as time allows.
Videographers may tape from the side aisles or balcony. No additional lighting will be permitted.
Note: While some couples choose to have their wedding videotaped, there are good reasons why you may wish to think alternatively. A videotape of something can easily override the memory itself. The power of marriage comes from what we carry inside of us, and not from the rerun of a pageant we watch from the outside. Videotapes are also unforgiving! They preserve every twitch, scratch, and frown. In general, our memory is a much better judge of reality. Our memory evaluates, edits, and enhances. The decision to videotape or not is clearly for you, the couple, to make. These remarks are simply to inform you that it need not be considered essential.
The Wedding Party may choose from a variety of rooms and potential dressing areas in the Educational Wing and Fellowship Hall. The Wedding Consultant will help you select a convenient area. Recognizing the excitement and frenzy of wedding days, every effort should be made for participants to clean up personal belongings and leave the area clean before departing.
Departure & Farewell Blessings
Many couples elect to use bubbles and these are permitted outside the building. Birdseed may be used if you sweep all affected sidewalks clear (sweeping the seed into the lawn) before leaving the area. Balloons may not be released due to the hazard they pose to area wildlife. Rice or other confetti-type materials are not to be used on church grounds for ecological, safety, and maintenance reasons.
Alcohol, Tobacco and Firearms
The only alcohol allowed on the church premises is the communion wine used in the Eucharist.
Smoking is not permitted inside the church facility. Please dispose of cigarette butts in the concrete urns provided so that they do not litter the grounds or cause a fire hazard.
Firearms (concealed or otherwise) are prohibited on church property.
It is the obligation of the bride and groom to make certain that the members of the wedding party understand the spirit of these policies.
If the reception is to be held at another location, and by invitation only, you may wish to have a receiving line in the Narthex for guests who will not attend the reception. If your reception is to be held in the Fellowship Hall, the receiving line should be in a position which will allow a free flow of people into the room. If you would like assistance from the Wedding Coordinator, this service may be requested.
Fellowship Hall & Your Reception
You are welcome to hold your reception in the fellowship hall. Table seating is limited to apx. 100 people. No alcohol may be served on the church premises—including during the reception. You are welcome to use the plates, serving dishes, etc. that we have on hand, but you will be responsible for washing, drying and putting them away.
Please make arrangements with the Wedding Coordinator or a friend to receive anticipated deliveries of flowers, catering, cake, or other items in plenty of time for proper preparation for the service.
It is our pleasure to assist you at this most joyous time! If you have questions, please do not hesitate to call the Pastor, the Wedding Coordinator, or the church office. Office hours are from 9:00 AM to 3:00 PM Monday through Thursday and from 9 to noon on Fridays, excluding holidays. Our telephone number is 913-649-0438.